I’m so glad today’s topic was best friends, rather than just friends. I think when we’re school age we throw the word best friend around so easily and its not until you’re a lot older that you realise the difference between a close friend and a best friend. Certain people you can turn to in certain situations, other people – your best friends – you can turn to in any situation.
I consider myself very lucky to have two best friends.
Amy (from Cocktails in Teacups)
|Our friendship in terms of Halloween costume
The Glinda to my Elphaba
Amy and I have been friends since 2004. Despite the 9 year age gap between us, she has always been one of the most like-minded people I have known. We technically met through a website I ran, but it wasn’t until 2004 that we met in person and soon became close. Over the last nine years we’ve had our ups and downs, even had 3 periods of time when we didn’t speak at all. We have been through the beginnings and ends of relationships together, all three of our children’s lives so far and many many a drama. She is often the first person I turn to in any situation. Unfortunately we currently live about 4-5 hours away from each other. I hate it to be honest but I know there isn’t much that can be done about it for now.
|A weekend away in London – one of many|
Luckily my birthday is a week on Tuesday and Amy is coming to visit from that Wednesday to Saturday. To say I can’t wait is definitely an understatement. I want to chat with her about so much stuff, to laugh/to cry, just to catch up. I haven’t been able to wrap my head around my birthday party as yet and although I’m sure I will have by then, I know she’ll be all for last minute planning and organising if I need her to.
|One of the numerous photos we’ve had taken together at Platform 9 3/4|
So many of our “obsessions” (I say that because we more than like things, or even love them, we obsess over them) are the same. Matchbox Twenty, Disney, Once Upon a Time, Harry Potter, Deckleswood, Chick Flicks, Lush – to name but a few. While we do have many loves that are different, especially clothes, music, books etc there are enough of the ones we do like to keep us obsessing for a life time.
This time last year, we started a stream of Murder Mysteries going. We’ve had one almost every month since. From Space to Pirates – from Halloween to Christmas – from Alice in Wonderland to…? The one coming up in two weeks is by far the one I’ve looked forward to the most. I can’t share too much here as at least 3-4 people who are attending read this blog! But its gonna be awesome. I know Amy is just as excited as I am!
Nat (from But a Mask)
N.B. she’s not really a blogger as such so her blog is more personal than anything
|Bridesmaids together in October of last year|
I’m going to start off by saying I have known Nat pretty much the same length of time as Amy. There is a similar age gap between us, though Nat is just a little bit older. However Nat used to be “the sister of my brother’s girlfriend” (or then ex-girlfriend) and “the friend of a friend”. Its only really been in the last 3 years, that Nat and I have become close friends ourselves and now I consider her my best friend.
|A park date, many years ago|
In doing this post I’ve actually found it fairly hard to find pictures of just us. Our friendship originally came from having kids of similar ages I think. A group of us seemed to form, because we all had young children. It became nice to go out to the park together, go for picnics, even use parties as an excuse to socialise. Nat was always very easy to get on with and though I can’t really put my finger on why we connect, we just do. Nat is one of the only people I have ever met, that I’ve never fallen out with, never had a cross word with, or even talked shit about behind her back (haha sorry but I do bitch about a lot of people).
|Alton Towers about 3 years ago|
After that our friendship became very much a three-way friendship, along with Nat’s best friend Hollie. We hung out for girlie nights, even went to Alton Towers together. In fact I have struggled to find a picture of just Nat and I, which didn’t have Hollie in it too. At times the friendship became four-way – at one point being with my brother’s (now ex) wife and at another time with my best friend Amy. I’m not convinced we always work as a three or even a four, but I do know that Nat and I together works just fine. What started as coffee dates together and moved to evenings at my house for tea and chats, soon became a best friendship.
|Amused that we’re always fairly close in pictures (see 1 and 2). Our whole group in 3.|
Some things I’ve done with one friend, that I wish I could have done with the other. Some things we’ve shared, I wish could have been shared with both. However one thing I know is that I wouldn’t trade either of them. These two friends are two of the main people who have held me together through rough and smooth. These two people are my BEST FRIENDS.
And… if you’re lucky enough to have either of these two people in your life – be thankful. Don’t take them for granted, don’t treat them like shit. And if you’re lucky enough that they consider you a best friend in return, don’t take the piss and abuse your friendship. If one day they’re gone and you’re no longer friends, you’ll regret it more than you know.