I don’t know how everyone else feels about buying gifts for their parents at Christmas, but I personally feel like there is a lot of pressure. It’s like a whole year’s worth of “thank you”, all summed up in one present.
When you’re younger, parents are responsible for doing so much for you, and in all honesty we probably take it for granted. However when you get older, possibly become a parent yourself, you realise just how much they did for you and to be honest, that you can never really repay them for that. For feeding you, clothing you, making sure you got an education, hopefully helping you to become a good person – and so much besides, being a parent is pretty much a thankless job for the most part.
So when it comes around to birthdays or Christmas and you’re tasked with the job of getting them a gift. What on earth can you get them, that truly says how much you feel for them. Even though they’re no longer dressing you (hopefully!) or feeding you (except for Sunday lunch perhaps!), they still seem to do more than you realise, so it’s always nice to show you care.
Although I find an actual present a lot of pressure, trying to show I’m grateful every day, is also really important to me. My dad passed away over 14 years ago now and since then, my mum has been my only parent. That said, she has been a fantastic parent and words cannot express how thankful I am for her. Even though I’m a parent myself, with my own children to look after, I know she’s always still there for me. Whether it’s to lend me a tenner to pop petrol in the car, to pick me up when my car breaks down, or a shoulder to cry on when it feels like everything is going wrong – there’s no one quite like mum for me. So I try my best, all the time, to do little things that show I care – more than just a thank you. I climb up and change her lightbulbs when they need doing, I take her a portion of left over dinner when we have some, I invite her along to family cinema trips. We have been on major holidays together – my immediate family of four and her too, so that she feels included and not alone. We spend all major events and holidays together and although it sounds cheesy, she’s probably as much my best friend as she is my mum. And each time I do those things, I know she’s grateful and she knows I care – which really is much more important than any gift I could give her.
So whether I decide to get her a luxury hamper, theatre tickets, a spa day experience or some new piece of technology that I’d probably end up having to set up myself, I know she will be thankful and grateful for it. Because she’s my mum and that’s what mum’s do.