Are you facing the difficult choice of planning a funeral for your loved one, and planning during these difficult times?
If you are planning a funeral, there are many things to consider, and one of those tasks is whether or not to hold a wake.
Should I Hold a Wake?
A wake after a funeral acts in a similar way to a reception for a wedding, once the formalities and the service are over, a wake gives family, friends, and other loved ones the chance to mingle, share stories, offer condolences, and support one another for a set amount of time afterwards.
Wakes can be a lovely chance for sharing memories of the person who has passed, and they can be a nice opportunity for family members who may not have seen each other for a long time to come together and support each other.
Organizing A Wake
Organizing a wake can seem like a mammoth task, especially with the ongoing restrictions due to the pandemic. Still, your funeral director will be able to help, London funeral services experts will be on top of the current rules and regulations, and will be able to advise on what you can and cannot plan and who you can and cannot invite.
Even with the restrictions in place, there are generally three aspects to planning a wake; these are the guest list, the venue, and the refreshments. The size of the wake you are organizing will usually have an impact on all three aspects, but here is a quick breakdown of what you should consider under each section.
The Guest List
At the moment, this is possibly the most difficult thing to organize, due to the ongoing changing restrictions. The restrictions may differ from state to state, so it’s best to ask your funeral director for guidance.
Generally, you’ll want to invite people with whom the deceased was particularly close to first. This is usually family, but it’s also important to remember that not all family is blood relations. If your deceased loved one was very close to people who weren’t family, a best friend, for example, it would be right to invite them over long lost relatives.
There are many options for a venue to hold your wake, and generally speaking public venues with a function room are better than inside your home, especially given the current situation.
Contact your local sports clubs or hotels, even church halls, most of these types of venues are used to holding wakes and will be able to assist your planning.
Under normal circumstances, a finger buffet is usually provided. Under these new circumstances, this may not be possible. It may be better to go with some kind of table service, or a served buffet style rather than a communal table.
Many venues will have a list of their preferred caterers, all of whom will be able to advise you on the current rules and restrictions around refreshments.