Having kids and separating can be one of the most difficult things you can do and unfortunately it can often be upsetting. However deciding who gets the kids at Christmas is even harder, especially when the decision isn’t straight forward. My ex and I separated over five years ago and to be truthful I’ve been lucky. There have been bad times but we’ve always remained amicable (just about), the kids stay with me majority of the time, with their dad having them only one night a week. At Christmas I have them for the majority of the day, dropping them off with my mother-in-law around 4pm. Their dad works till then anyway, but he has the evening with them and this year for the first time he is able to have them overnight Christmas Day as well. This works well for us and has never caused problems, but I know others aren’t as fortunate.
My best friend, for the first time this year, thought she would be spending Christmas without her kids. Luckily though, things have changed slightly and while she won’t see them till 6.30pm that evening, she will at least see them. My brother, who is separated from his ex and now with another partner, doesn’t see his children at all on Christmas Day.
Family Friendly and Simpson Millar published this infograph about “Getting It Together For Christmas”. It’s actually quite thought provoking so I wanted to share it here. To me, all that matters is that the kids are happy, but honestly it would be hard to give them up for the day, no matter what they wanted (though hopefully it would never be that!)